Nothing. About dad

Since dad died last Wednesday my day to day activities have changed radically. I am no longer phoning, emailing and writing to people to help organise dad’s life, nor am I speaking to him.

So, just at the moment there is a great big hole where these things used to be. The hole isn’t just about time through; there is a mental hole as I am not constantly thinking about his welfare.

But yet much of my time – maybe even more than before – has been spent on administration of dad’s body and estate: getting the Cause of death Certificate, registering the death, advising utility companies, pensions providers etc. takes a little time. Then there has been an appointment …

[example, as I am writing this the phone goes. The undertakers have let me know that while I gave them a suite and tie etc. for dad I forget to include a shirt and I need to drop that in today or tomorrow.]

… with the probate lawyer as well as the vicar; order of service decided upon and written, time and place of funeral (2.15pm July 1st); family and friends advised.

And so it seems to me that this past week has been simultaneously both empty and full, free and tied up.

It’s a funny old life isn’t it…..


About Pete

South Londoner struggling with life, art and photography.
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5 Responses to Nothing. About dad

  1. Sharon says:

    Indeed it is a funny old life!
    I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your father.
    I understand you completely. My mum had lost her husband 2 years ago next week. The feelings for her was so much similar. It does take time and you will heal.

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  2. Yes, it is a funny old life. The days and weeks following a loss are the most bizarre and peculiar. It’s a very strange time. It’s good you’ve got this to express yourself and the show to focus on as well as all the arrangements which are such an important part of coming to terms with everything. Take care.

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  3. Jayne Kemp says:

    So sorry to hear about your loss.

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  4. sarahlsnaps says:

    So sorry to hear of your father passing away Pete, what touching and delicate images you took of him. It’s been a long while since I have been on here and am genuinely sad to have read this. But as you say- such a melting pot of emotions makes for interesting new chapters in your life. x

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